DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES OF OPINION

The world is full of people who don't see eye to eye on everything from the smallest of issues to the largest. We also often encounter people who disagree with us just to pick a fight and create trouble. Falling prey to such people and getting angry each time you have to face a different opinion will only harm you in the long run. Here are five tips to help you handle differences of opinion:
1. Do not fall prey to provokers: Learn to identify those who argue for the sake of arguing and enjoy having the power of disturbing your peace of mind. These are people you must learn to tackle. Do not let them play with your mind.

2. Be a patient listener: Often, our impatience towards others' opinions stems from our impatience to hear them out in entirety. If we do not understand their thought, we are likely to disagree. So hold your horses and let others express themselves.

3. Don't always talk to win an argument: Give up an argument if the other party is unwilling to bend. You don't always have to have the last word, not at the cost of your own peace of mind.

4. Place yourself in your opponents' shoes: Someone opposing your point of view is basically propagating his own. And his point of view deserves a chance. So that you can understand their side, slip into their shoes. Argue out in your mind their point of view and oppose your own. Defending their thoughts will help you see all its merits and demerits. For all you know, you might even agree with them later!

5. Be open to better ideas: You must have the strength to accept the superiority of others' ideas. Being rigid and not embracing their thoughts will only affect your growth, both mental and emotional.

Stop Eating Your Anger

Four years ago, Barbara Konwinski of Wyoming, Michigan, weighed 268 pounds. "I was so angry — just angry at my life in general," the 54-year-old teacher, mother and wife recalls. "I felt I had no control over anything."

Although she's normally cheerful and outgoing, a series of events that would challenge anyone — her husband's job loss when his company relocated, a house fire and a serious accident involving her oldest son — brought Barbara to an emotional low. And her weight to an all-time high. "Only food would appease me," she recalls. "So I would grab a cookie, eat it and then feel worse, because in addition to being angry and frustrated with my family's circumstances, I'd be angry with myself for eating. Then I would turn around and eat two more cookies."

Barbara was literally stuffing her anger, something many women who struggle with their weight do, experts say. This is how it works: You have a run-in at the office, you open your mail to find a monster bill or your teenager rolls her eyes at you and stomps away. Your next stop is the kitchen or perhaps the staff lounge, where somebody brought in a cake. Never mind that you have been making a conscious effort to eat less. Down goes the cake, the leftover pizza or whatever else is around.*

"We've learned from thousands of patients that women often internalize their anger," says Gerard J. Musante, Ph.D., director of Structure House, a residential weight-loss center in Durham, North Carolina. "They use food to deal with the depression, emotional hurts and reduced self-esteem that follows."

"People who swallow their anger feel, for whatever reason, that they can't express it, so they resort to food," says Thomas Wadden, M.D., director of the Center for Weight and Eating Disorders at the University of Pennsylvania's medical school.

"The irony is, nobody enjoys eating when they're stuffing hostile feelings," Dr. Wadden adds. "Even if it's delicious, you may not notice the taste or how much you've eaten."

Eating out of anger or frustration often sparks binges, which can really pile on the pounds, says Howard Rankin, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Inspired to Lose. Rather than eating just one or two cookies, you eat the whole bag, only to then move on to other food items. Keeping anger under wraps also is draining, because it uses a lot of energy, says Dr. Rankin. "The angry person may feel very empty and very hungry, with a desperate need to eat."

How Fast Should I Lose Weight?

There are some medical risks associated with rapid weight loss. Losing more than 2 or 3 pounds per week poses some danger of negative health consequences, including electrolyte imbalance — a potentially life-threatening condition.
Another common danger of rapid weight loss is that people often use unsafe methods to achieve it, like starving themselves or eliminating several essential nutrients. We've all seen too many of these ridiculous gimmicks fail. Remember the cabbage soup diet?

These diets are unhealthy to begin with, but people often combine them with dangerous over-the-counter weight-loss products that promise almost magical results. The marketing behind these products is huge, yet the science to ensure their safety and efficacy is frequently lacking, despite the manufacturers' claims.

Research comparing rapid initial weight loss with slower, steadier weight loss shows that over the long run more people who lost weight rapidly, or who initially lost large amounts of weight, tended to regain the weight more quickly. After a year, people who lost quickly ultimately ended up in about the same place as the ones who took a more gradual approach.

Safe, effective weight loss involves making small, sustainable changes in diet and adding reasonable amounts of physical activity to your day. Focus on realistic portion control and healthy food choices, and work toward 10,000 steps a day. Also, try to identify and address any emotional and situational triggers that throw you off track, so you can adjust to life's challenges without turning to food or other unhealthy habits.

Why starve and deprive yourself on the way to the finish line? Slow and steady really does win the race.

Emotional eating and its disadvantages

"Emotional eating" is sort of a blanket term that describes how people use food in relation to negative — or sometimes positive — emotions. It is most commonly seen, however, as a reaction to a negative feeling. In short, emotional eaters eat to make themselves feel better. We believe it's a coping response that stems from a lifetime of learning. For many, emotional eating begins very early in childhood; for others, it develops later in life. What's the first thing we do when a baby is crying? We give him or her a bottle. How do we reward young children? With candy. How do we celebrate success as adults? With food and drink. This is not to say that using food in these ways is always bad — but it becomes a problem when we rely heavily on food to the exclusion of other, more healthful coping strategies.
It's true that emotionally triggered eating can temporarily soothe people, relieve their stress, or make them feel better. But very shortly afterward, it can have just the opposite effect, making them feel guilty or ashamed. And that leads to more emotional eating, creating a vicious cycle.

I include eating to reward yourself in the emotional eating category because it is another instance of using food in response to an emotion. In every society throughout history, food has been involved in celebration — and there's nothing wrong with that. But it can be problematic to celebrate with food every time something good happens in your life, especially if you're having a very successful life!

If people consider themselves emotional eaters, we seek to help them identify the specific emotions that trigger their eating, and under what circumstances they occur. We start by using something called a hunger/fullness scale. The first step is to ask, "Am I really hungry?" We encourage people to become aware of their hunger and satiety cues and to analyze them realistically by saying, for example, "I might feel hungry, but I ate an hour ago. I'm not physically in need of food." The next step is to ask, in the moment a craving is occurring, "What do I really need? What's missing? Am I bored? Am I lonely?"

If you are bored, activity of some sort is the answer. If you are lonely, then an activity that involves people is ideal — for example, calling a friend and talking for a while. For people who eat to reward themselves, we suggest trying something else once in a while, such as treating themselves to a massage or a theater ticket, taking a hike, or escaping for an active long weekend. It isn't easy to break long-standing patterns, but it can be done.

Taming Cravings and urges

The keys to coping with cravings and urges are time delay and distraction. One simple strategy is simply to postpone the decision. We recommend that people do something else first and make the decision about the food they crave afterward — and to keep doing that as often as they need to until the craving passes. It sounds straightforward, and it is, but sometimes it's hard to sustain the effort needed in the face of a craving. It's not about trying to make the perfect decision in the moment — it's about making the next decision. For example, if I tell someone to meditate instead of eating pizza, the pizza is going to win. But if I tell that person to do a three-minute deep-breathing exercise first and then make the decision about the pizza, he or she can probably do that. It's a matter of fighting one battle at a time. Who knows — after the relaxation exercise, the craving may have passed. If not, the person can do one more thing before reaching for the pizza.
Delay can come in many forms, including going for a walk, listening to music, taking a bath, and talking on the phone with a friend. Too often, people want an easy answer to the problem of cravings and urges. But the solution is to follow the whole healthy eating program, which reduces the likelihood of having those cravings in the first place. Keep in mind that a "whole" program includes eating well-spaced meals, managing stress, and developing coping strategies. It all comes together and chips away at the cravings, day by day.

Lets stop obesity and invite good health

Okay okay before you say anything like " hey dude u were fat too once" i will open the secret myself only.Yes guys I,Avinash Agarwal swear on god that jo bhi kahunga sach kahunga aur sach ek alaava kuch nai khaaunga.On 15th March my weight checked was 108.25 kilograms.here are the remaining dates and my progress.
15th April-100(voila..century!!!)
15th May -94.5
15th June -89.8
15th July -82.7
15th Agust-76.09(this was a very very very tough period)
15th Sept -73.00(people no longer recognized the old Avinash..i had to introduce myself and then they thought someone was kiddin wid them)
15th October-69.6
1st December-63.25(now i was underweight..hehe).But the sheer feeling of lightness and good health makes me suggest every obese person to follow my footsteps.

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Now what worse abuse can there be for an Business Analyst.